The quality of your relationship with your therapist is the most important element in making your therapy affective. If you are looking for a therapist or already have one the following 5 qualities are essential to having the right person in our corner.
Read MoreWe have a need to take literal or mythic journeys, transform ourselves and come back to our day to day lives with new wisdom. And when the topic turned to those who are mavericks in our society and what they can contribute he identified himself as having always been a maverick.
Read MoreWe have just passed the summer equinox and had the longest day of the year. We are enjoying the fullness of summer. What does that mean and what are supposed to do with this season of light? It is a time to connect socially with many family gatherings, weddings and parties scheduled during the warmer weather. For those that suffer from SAD, seasonal affective disorder, it is a relief to bask in the sun’s warm glow.
Read MoreOne of the byproducts of the city’s growth has been an increase in homelessness. Many of the homeless cannot find affordable housing. The proposed tax was to make funds available to provide low cost, subsidized housing.
Read MoreThere is a mistaken belief that those with money and fame are immune from a downward spiral that can result in taking of one’s own life.
Read MoreMen and women have different ways of communicating. Yes, we share words to communicate and we can also use silence.
Read MoreOur age is characterized by the perfection of means and the confusion of goals.” Those wise words were spoken by Albert Einstein many years ago. They still are true. As we move forward in time we find ourselves with more means, i.e.., having the tools to have a wonderful life. Such as cell phones, the internet, a more affluent society and yet we are struggling with what are the goals we have for ourselves.
Read MoreI suggest you watch the Ted Talk on You Tube featuring Warren Farrell. It is titled: The Boy Crisis: A Sobering Look at the State of our Boys. In the talk he addresses what he calls the boy crisis in our country. Farrell exposes the causes for the high levels of violence, suicide and lack of purpose experienced by boys in our culture.
Read MoreOne of the greatest challenges for men is to learn how to stop approaching every conversation with their wife, or partner as an opportunity to solve their problem.
Read MoreIf you and your partner are expecting you are about to begin your parenting journey, your father journey. You will need to do the following things:
Read More“The Work” was filmed at Folsom Prison in California. It paints a stark picture of the inmates and the invited outside participants during a four-day group therapy process.
The film is gritty, real and puts the viewer face to face with level four offenders who are open about the crimes they committed to get themselves there. One inmate tells of “almost sawing a man in half” with a knife.
Read MoreOne of the most common complaints that women have of men is their lack of follow through and shirking of responsibility. Yes, they go to work, bring home a paycheck, or more rarely take on roles of caregiver to young children but in other arenas they can miss the mark.
Read MoreWe socialize women to be caretakers of others. They are trained in these roles by their families, have it modeled by their mothers and the other women in their lives.
Read MoreMen have been trained since childhood to not cry or show emotions. It is part of our toxic masculine culture that tells boys and men to “be a man.” When they are young boys cry when upset, scared, lost, etc. They then get the message that that is not OK, even from their family. Fathers who were themselves trained out of their feelings also join in telling their sons to, “suck it up!”
Read MorePsychodrama is a powerful therapeutic method with multiple applications. Psychodrama can be used therapeutically to help clients in three different settings.
Read MoreSetting heathy limits is an essential way to protect and define yourself and let others know what your personal boundaries are. If we all grew up in healthy families we would have had models for how to set healthy boundaries with our spouse, children and others. So, what do healthy boundaries look like in personal relationships?
Read MoreWe men are not raised to pay attention to our relationships. This may be slowly changing but in general boys are raised to be achievers and are in training to be bread winners.
Read MoreMen are raised to be self-sufficient and always reply with “fine” when asked how they are feeling. They will not risk being seen as weak or needy by asking for help. This behavior is enshrined in the old joke about men never stopping and asking for directions when the family gets lost on their outing.
Read MoreCouples Counseling is the best way for couples to work on the conflicts that cause distance and hurt.If both people enter couples counseling with a willingness and commitment to make things better things will be better.
Read More“The Man’s Guide to Women” by John and Julie Gottman is a great step forward in helping men understand the women in their lives. The book’s serious topic is addressed with some lightheartedness including cartoons to not overwhelm the layman. Each chapter ends with a summary of the key messages and to show which behaviors makes a man “a hero” versus “a zero.”
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