20 Signs You are Emotionally Mature by The School of Life
/The bad behavior of others is often caused by fear and anxiety. Not nastiness and idiocy.
What is in your head cannot automatically be understood by others. You have to articulate your intentions and feelings by using words.
You sometimes get things wrong and need to apologize.
You learn to be confident and realize that others are just making it up as they go along.
You forgive your parents. They were painfully out of their depth and struggling with demons of their own.
You learn the enormous influence of so called, “small things” on mood like blood sugar level, alcohol and stress. You learn to never bring us important issues with a loved one until all parties are well rested, no one is drunk, had food and is not in a hurry.
You give up sulking. No one can read your mind so if someone hurts you, you bring it to them directly. If they get it you forgive them. If they don’t, in a different way you forgive them too.
You let go of perfection in pretty much every area. There are no perfect people, perfect jobs or perfect lives. You pivot towards, “good enough.”
You learn the virtues of being a big a little bit more pessimistic about how things will turn out. You emerge as a calmer, more forgiving and patient soul.
You learn to see that everyone’s weakness of character are linked to counterbalancing strengths. Rather than isolating their weaknesses you look at the whole picture. Yes, they can be incredibly messy and that the same time brilliantly creative and visionary.
You fall in love a bit less easily and you develop loyalty to what you already have.
You learn, that quite surprisingly, you are quite a difficult person to live with!
You forgive yourself for your errors and foolishness. Of course, you are an idiot, and a lovable one.
You realize that maturity involves making peace with the stubbornly childish bits that will always remain.
You cease to put too much hope in grand plans. You start to celebrate the little things that go well.
What people think of you, in general, ceases to be such a concern.
You get better at hearing feedback. You begin to see that you can listen criticism and survive it.
You realize the extent you tend to live day by day in too close proximity to your problems and issues. You realize you need to get out and get greater perspective on the things that pain you.
You realize that your distinctive past colors your response to events. And you learn to compensate for the distortions that result. You recognize not to go with your first feelings.
When you start a friendship you realize that other people don’t principally want to know your good news so much as to gain an insight into what troubles and worries you so that they can, in turn, feel less lonely with the pains in their own hearts. You become a better friend because you see that what friendship is really about is the sharing of vulnerability.
