Review of: “The Man’s Guide to Women”

Review of: “The Man’s Guide to Women”

“The Man’s Guide to Women” by John and Julie Gottman is a great step forward in helping men understand the women in their lives. The book’s serious topic is addressed with some lightheartedness including cartoons to not overwhelm the layman. Each chapter ends with a summary of the key messages and to show which behaviors makes a man “a hero” versus “a zero.”

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Adolescents: Finding Your Identity

Adolescents: Finding Your Identity

As adolescents make the challenging journey from childhood towards adulthood one of their tasks is to find their identity.  Being age fourteen is recycling age two so there is a lot of saying “no” and being oppositional that goes with the teen years. For that two-year-old and the adolescent the “no’s” are about defining themselves and asserting their power. They are in a process of separating themselves from what their parents want from them.

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What is Psychodrama Therapy?

What is Psychodrama Therapy?

Psychodrama is a form of group therapy created by J.L. Moreno. He was one of the founders of group psychotherapy and held the belief that therapy done in a group was the optimal way to help people heal. He believed that our families were our first groups where we were injured in childhood and felt another group would be the best vehicle for healing

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The Five Signs that you are a Couple in Crisis

The Five Signs that you are a Couple in Crisis

     It is said that couples often come to couple’s therapy too late. They wait too long to seek help which makes it unlikely they will achieve good outcomes. In part, the problem is that they come in “in crisis.” That means they have used up any reserves of good will and patience to deal with one another. They most likely have been miscommunicating for a long time and both are feeling misunderstood, taken for granted, etc. One person may have started an affair to find some place where they do feel understood and cared for.

 

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What Men Need to Grow Up

What Men Need to Grow Up

You don’t have to look very far to see “the immature masculine” or “toxic masculinity” rampant in our culture     Men commonly put down any sign of “weakness” or sensitivity in other men starting in boyhood and effectively police their behavior by shaming or bullying them. Being a “real man” gets equated with suffering pain, never showing vulnerability or any feelings besides anger.

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