In our current challenging time with the Covid-19 virus we are more isolated. One of the things that helps us as humans to manage stress and fear is to feel connected to those that love and care for us. Often our devices stand between us and the comfort and connection we crave.
Read MoreTouch is our first language and our first experience of comfort from another. It is needed to convey the care, affection and attention we need as infants. We come into the world as the these tiny beings with all the powerful emotions we will have in our adult form. When we are upset, we need to be soothed, calmed and held. The quality and energy of that holding and stroking is what helps us calm and over time helps us learn how to calm ourselves.
Read MoreIn this unprecedented time, we need to be skillful in our communication with our spouses or significant others. What topic, usually unaddressed, needs to be communicated and discussed?
Read MoreWe are going through an unprecedented and difficult time with the economy shutting down, unemployment near depression levels and families sheltering in place. The covid-19 pandemic has created tremendous stressors for our nation and the world.
Read MoreI just finished watching A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood starring Tom Hanks. I was brought along into the magic and substance of what Mr. Rogers brought to the world when he spoke this line: “We are trying to give people a positive way of dealing with their feelings.” It holds many parallels to what therapy is all about.
Read MoreWe are living in extraordinary times right now. The last several months have moved us from disbelief and denial to acceptance of the “new reality” of a pandemic gripping our world. We as men are struggling like everyone else to make sense of this new threat to our health, safety and livelihoods. An additional challenge is to take good care of ourselves so that we have the resource to care for our families and others in need.
Read MoreWe all have to live with ourselves day in and day out. As Bruce Springsteen put it, “It’s a sad man my friend, who’s livin’ in his own skin and can’t stand the company.” We need to come to terms with ourselves which means being caring instead of harsh as we make mistakes and hopefully learn from then.
Read MoreSaying our final goodbyes to a loved one it is one of the most difficult things we ever do. It is also an opportunity to start the journey of grieving well. Here are some suggestions on what you might say or do with a parent or other loved one facing their final days.
Read MoreBeyond the action scenes and good versus evil elements this is also a father and son picture. The Joneses are archetypes of the father and son common to all fathers and sons.
Read MoreThe information below is from an article entitled, “How to Love Yourself,” by Louise L. Hay.
Read MorePsychodrama is an action method often used in a group therapy setting. Aspects of it can be used in the workplace, churches or other social gatherings. Psychodrama has three stages.
Read MoreThe quality of your relationship with your therapist is the most important element in making your therapy affective. If you are looking for a therapist or already have one the following 5 qualities are essential to having the right person in our corner.
Read MoreWe have a need to take literal or mythic journeys, transform ourselves and come back to our day to day lives with new wisdom. And when the topic turned to those who are mavericks in our society and what they can contribute he identified himself as having always been a maverick.
Read MoreWe have just passed the summer equinox and had the longest day of the year. We are enjoying the fullness of summer. What does that mean and what are supposed to do with this season of light? It is a time to connect socially with many family gatherings, weddings and parties scheduled during the warmer weather. For those that suffer from SAD, seasonal affective disorder, it is a relief to bask in the sun’s warm glow.
Read MoreOne of the byproducts of the city’s growth has been an increase in homelessness. Many of the homeless cannot find affordable housing. The proposed tax was to make funds available to provide low cost, subsidized housing.
Read MoreThere is a mistaken belief that those with money and fame are immune from a downward spiral that can result in taking of one’s own life.
Read MoreMen and women have different ways of communicating. Yes, we share words to communicate and we can also use silence.
Read MoreOur age is characterized by the perfection of means and the confusion of goals.” Those wise words were spoken by Albert Einstein many years ago. They still are true. As we move forward in time we find ourselves with more means, i.e.., having the tools to have a wonderful life. Such as cell phones, the internet, a more affluent society and yet we are struggling with what are the goals we have for ourselves.
Read MoreI suggest you watch the Ted Talk on You Tube featuring Warren Farrell. It is titled: The Boy Crisis: A Sobering Look at the State of our Boys. In the talk he addresses what he calls the boy crisis in our country. Farrell exposes the causes for the high levels of violence, suicide and lack of purpose experienced by boys in our culture.
Read MoreOne of the greatest challenges for men is to learn how to stop approaching every conversation with their wife, or partner as an opportunity to solve their problem.
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